Proverbs 15 (ESV)
1 A soft answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger.
2 The tongue of the wise commends knowledge,
but the mouths of fools pour out folly.
3 The eyes of the Lord are in every place,
keeping watch on the evil and the good.
4 A gentle[a] tongue is a tree of life,
but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.
5 A fool despises his father’s instruction,
but whoever heeds reproof is prudent.
6 In the house of the righteous there is much treasure,
but trouble befalls the income of the wicked.
7 The lips of the wise spread knowledge;
not so the hearts of fools.[b]
8 The sacrifice of the wicked is an abomination to the Lord,
but the prayer of the upright is acceptable to him.
9 The way of the wicked is an abomination to the Lord,
but he loves him who pursues righteousness.
10 There is severe discipline for him who forsakes the way;
whoever hates reproof will die.
11 Sheol and Abaddon lie open before the Lord;
how much more the hearts of the children of man!
12 A scoffer does not like to be reproved;
he will not go to the wise.
13 A glad heart makes a cheerful face,
but by sorrow of heart the spirit is crushed.
14 The heart of him who has understanding seeks knowledge,
but the mouths of fools feed on folly.
15 All the days of the afflicted are evil,
but the cheerful of heart has a continual feast.
16 Better is a little with the fear of the Lord
than great treasure and trouble with it.
17 Better is a dinner of herbs where love is
than a fattened ox and hatred with it.
18 A hot-tempered man stirs up strife,
but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.
19 The way of a sluggard is like a hedge of thorns,
but the path of the upright is a level highway.
20 A wise son makes a glad father,
but a foolish man despises his mother.
21 Folly is a joy to him who lacks sense,
but a man of understanding walks straight ahead.
22 Without counsel plans fail,
but with many advisers they succeed.
23 To make an apt answer is a joy to a man,
and a word in season, how good it is!
24 The path of life leads upward for the prudent,
that he may turn away from Sheol beneath.
25 The Lord tears down the house of the proud
but maintains the widow’s boundaries.
26 The thoughts of the wicked are an abomination to the Lord,
but gracious words are pure.
27 Whoever is greedy for unjust gain troubles his own household,
but he who hates bribes will live.
28 The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer,
but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.
29 The Lord is far from the wicked,
but he hears the prayer of the righteous.
30 The light of the eyes rejoices the heart,
and good news refreshes[c] the bones.
31 The ear that listens to life-giving reproof
will dwell among the wise.
32 Whoever ignores instruction despises himself,
but he who listens to reproof gains intelligence.
33 The fear of the Lord is instruction in wisdom,
and humility comes before honor.
I have one noticeable wrinkle on my face so far. I’m sure I have many more to come, but for now, it’s just one. But it’s so deep that I can’t camouflage it or hope to get it to disappear with lotions and potions. I don’t mind that I have a wrinkle, well, let’s be honest….I sort of do, but they come with the territory of aging so I’ve made peace with the fact that I’m going to have wrinkles. What bothers me is the placement and what I did to etch this line into my face.
It is not a smile line (that would be so much easier to make peace with), it is a grumpy line. Between my eyes. From making a sullen face.
When I realized that my scowl line was etched deep into my tissue, I was overcome with disappointment in myself. I like to think that I’m a person filled with joy. I’m known for having a very loud laugh, one that some call obnoxious. It’s the loudest one in any room. You don’t laugh like that unless you are filled with joy, right? But my scowl line mocks me in the mirror, reminding me that the glad, cheerful heart I think I have is tarnished in spots.
I noticed it months ago, but the damage was done. It is there, and it’s not going anywhere.
Although I can’t remove the wrinkle, it has altered my thoughts about what my face is projecting to the world around me. I realized how often my ‘resting face’ is grumpy looking.
I can’t change the damage done, but can I ask God to work in my heart to change it into a glad one.
I have begun to write in my Gratitude Journal again. Each night, as I choose to reflect and delight in the small moments of my day and how God is working in them, I write down at least 3 things I’m thankful for that day. It often is more, but some days, 3 is all I can think of. But as I write, my mind is flooded with reminders of how much God loves me. How He cares for me in big and small ways. And I can’t help but go to sleep with a smile on my face.
Gratitude might not be able to erase the scowl line I’ve etched in my forehead, but I’m pretty sure it will create some smile and laugh lines. And if my face bears the evidence of a cheerful heart, I will certainly be grateful for that.